On International Women’s Day in 2018 I wrote all about the inspiring ladies in my life. This year, I want to talk about women supporting women and the importance of this.
I was fortunate enough to grow up before social media really blew up (I’m an 80’s baby). I wasn’t surrounded by huge amounts of what ‘perfect’ should be. The only ‘flawless’ people I came across were in magazines that were poured over in the playground or on the TV.
Going into secondary school, I had a close knit group of friends. We weren’t the super popular gang but we kept our heads down, worked hard and achieved the grades to enable us to do the next ‘step’. I don’t ever remember being bullied but I do remember a select group of girls who targeted different people every term.
It wasn’t until I was working in my last job that I experienced a woman who dragged others down. The majority of people who I worked with really encouraged me when I switched career paths within the company. My then boss took me under her wing and pushed me into lots of situations which would expose me to the new career. As I started to gain more confidence, I noticed that one particular person was constantly trying to pull me back down. I was made to feel like I wasn’t doing a good enough job yet she could never back up her claims. In complete honesty, she was part of the reason I decided to leave.
As I sit and write this blog post, there is a Twitter debate going on about what a particular blogger may or may not have done. Every week there is some attack on a blogger of the ‘moment’. I scroll past these conversations SO fast I barely know what’s going on with the ‘gossip’. I’m simply not interested.
What happened to women supporting women? It’s hard enough to be a ‘successful’ woman. The pulls on our time are exhausting – have the flying career, a family, have a social life, go to the gym, be creative…the list goes on and on. Then there’s the whole topic of equality in the workplace and pay scale which needs a blog post on it’s own!We need to encourage each other, not tear each other down. Jealously and bitterness are two of the worse emotions and when targeted towards someone the results can be destroying. This negative energy should be chanelled into something more positive and inspiring.
I have a feeling many of my readers will agree with what I’m trying to get across. Today, on International Womens Day 2019, leave that negativity at the door.
Be who you want to be, not what society wants or expects you to be. You might be outgoing and have a crazy wild side, you might be quieter and more reserved. Whatever you are, concentrate on being you, on being a better version of you and go about your day with your head held high and a smile on your face.
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