A Better Balance

We all know the drill…we try to have a career, be a wife / partner, go to the gym, have a social life, run a blog or have a hobby. When we do take time to be us?! At the tail end of 2018, my ‘online’ friend, Rosalyn Oxer, was looking for a small selection of guinea pigs to trial her Better Balance e-course. I jumped at the chance and got myself booked on pretty quick smart.

I’ve been ‘chatting’ to Rosalyn for a couple of years now. What’s quite surreal is that I only ‘found’ her after we’d been living in Spain for 6 weeks back in 2016 and learnt that she wasn’t that far from where we were. Typical!!! We have a similar outlook on life and share similar passions so I knew that the course would ‘fit’.

What I loved about the course was that there were 3 ‘tasks’ sent to you on a weekly basis but they only took around 10 minutes each. The task were either visualisations, journalling or completing worksheets so plenty of variety. My biggest concern was that I wouldn’t have the time to get into the course in a big way but it was easy to find 10 minutes. There was also the option of doing everything at the same time but a couple of the weeks needed you to do an activity on the Monday and then reflect on it for a couple of days. Rosalyn also did 2 1-1 sessions over Skype so you could really get down into the detail of the course.

There were a couple of ‘lightbulb’ moments for me in the course. It’s clear that I am not a person that can sit and ‘do nothing’. I can watch TV for a couple of hours but then start to get fidgety. I’m certainly not someone that watch a boxset in one day! My idea of ‘doing nothing’ is in fact doing something, whether that’s reading a book, writing a blog post, catching up with friends / family.

Fowey Estuary
Fowey Estuary

The other point that came to light was that I only truly relax when we are not at home. This appears to be because we are ‘always’ at home. Our office is at home so therefore 80% of the week I am probably at home. Don’t get me wrong, I love our home but I do get cabin fever! It is only when we get in the car and drive away, even if just for the day, a night or a week’s holiday then I am able to switch off. I have no issue being on holiday ‘doing nothing’ because I am not able to sort that washing out or answer that email that’s come in from a client.

I’m sure Rosalyn will be running this e-course again in the coming months but she has a very important arrival coming in the early part of 2019! She is also running a few 1-1 sessions this month for anyone who would like some clarity going into the new year. You can contact Rosalyn through her website here.




  1. Mel
    24/01/2019 / 7:09 am

    Ohh this sounds so interesting.
    I struggle to do nothing and especially guilt free.


  2. prettifulblog
    24/01/2019 / 2:17 pm

    This sounds like it really helped you, and I love that it wasn’t too much work or too overwhelming

  3. Lady Writes (@LadyWrites_Blog)
    24/01/2019 / 8:18 pm

    This sounds so interesting and I’m glad it’s helping you! I’m the same with not relaxing at home too x

  4. terriheckley
    25/01/2019 / 12:07 pm

    This sounds so intriguing. I’m the exact same, I struggle to switch off at home without feeling guilty x

  5. Erin
    25/01/2019 / 10:54 pm

    Oh wow this sounds incredible! Right up my street!

    Erin || MakeErinOver

  6. Alice 💫 (@alicespake)
    27/01/2019 / 5:05 pm

    This sounds interesting, I always feel like I have to be doing everything and more xx

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